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Any Day Dying – What Death Has Taught Me

November 4, 2019

This past Friday, while enjoying a great chat over lunch, I received a text from a dear friend. The text read, "my mom's gone. My mom is f'n gone”.   My heart sank, and I physically gasped. I read the text several more times to make sure I understood what she was saying. I didn't know what to say back. I sat there in what seemed like still time, staring at my phone.   When it finally sank in...I realized my friend's mom was gone. She died and died quickly and unexpectedly.   My mind had so many questions -…

Start Listening to You. Trust me, it will change your life.

October 20, 2019

How many times has someone said to you stop being emotional, don't make emotional decisions or, you're letting your emotions get the best of you? Even though it might not seem like it, people say this to help you. They're trying to make you feel better because they love you and want to see you stop suffering. The problem with this? We start thinking we shouldn’t be emotional and spend time trying to avoid our emotions or get rid of them. And instead, we should see our emotions as something good. Emotions are your internal compass and ignoring your emotions…

How to be Less Overwhelmed with Your Goals

September 22, 2019

“Dealing with the temporary frustration of not making progress is an integral part of the path towards excellence.” ~Christopher Sommer in Tools of the Titans - Tim Ferriss        Two weeks ago, I was talking to a friend and he could hear frustration in my voice. He said, “you’re frustrated because you’re used to things being easy and what you’re trying to do isn’t easy”.   Man, that made me mad.   But it’s true, isn't it? When things are not easy or perfect, what do we do? We get frustrated. And sometimes we throw the towel in rather…

Having No Purpose Has Negative Impacts on Your Wellness

September 15, 2019

“All of us want to believe that there is some purpose and meaning to our life, that we are connected to something larger than ourselves. We want to feel some weight and significance to what we have done. Without that conviction, we experience an emptiness and depression that we will ascribe to other factors”. ~Robert Greene in The Laws of Human Nature   Because you are human and aware of your mortality, you are searching for purpose - whether you realize it or not. And when you come up emptyhanded you’re frustrated (and confused as to why).   Typically, your…

What’s Shame and Guilt Got to Do with It?

September 8, 2019

Have you ever felt bad after eating? Not the kind where your belly feels full, but the kind that shows up when you CAN. NOT. EVEN. believe how much you just ate,. A lot of times this happens when you go out with the girls. Or crush a bread basket at the dinner table. Or when you “break down” and eat everything in the fridge.  If you answered, “nope”, I’ve never experienced that - stop reading and go celebrate because you’re in the minority. You’re luckily not plagued with the incessant chatter about what to eat and what not to…

Are Competing Priorities the Root of Your Frustrations?

June 1, 2019

If I had a magic pill that gave you the freedom to eat whatever you wanted with no consequences would you take it? You could eat and not worry about gaining weight. There would be no side effects. It’d give you the freedom to literally do whatever you wanted with food. You’d not only take it but you’d say gimme, gimme, gimme! Why? Well, because all of us wish for a hot bod with optimal health but also want donuts, pizza, and milkshakes. Your tension of wanting opposite things at the same time that doesn’t align can be considered the…

What You Resist, Persists

April 12, 2019

Human behavior is a funny thing, isn't it? We want good relationships, emotions, and behaviors but for some reason, we tend to do the opposite of what we want, which leads to bad relationships, emotions, and behaviors. A great example is wanting to be healthy. We want to wake up early and go to the gym, but we don't. And even weirder than doing the opposite of what we want - when we screw up we beat ourselves up. Why did I drink that much last night? So stupid…. Why can’t I just go to the gym? I’m lazy…. I…

How Willpower is Stopping You

April 6, 2019

For years I’ve tried to get up in the morning and work out. I’d tell myself on Sunday night, tomorrow is the day I’m going to start going to the gym in the morning. Monday morning would come. The alarm would go off. And yep, you guessed it, I’d hit the snooze button for an hour. Why is this? I’ve always figured it was because I have absolutely NO willpower. In Benjamin Hardy’s article, Confidence, 2 Reasons Most People Don’t Have It he says, “Willpower, from a psychological standpoint, is often called “ego depletion” or “decision fatigue.” The reason it…

How Changing the Reason Could Change the Result

March 14, 2019

Can’t maintain a diet? Do you feel like diets work short term for you but you just end up right back where you started? Maybe you’ve dieted only to gain everything, if not more, back? Do you wish you could just, “get your shit together?” Look, here’s the deal - there are thousands, if not millions of people who feel the exact same way you do. I wish I could come up with some magic way of ending the suffering we all experience when it comes to our daily struggles or the constant failures we experience fighting to be thin…

How Much Control Does Food Have Over You?

March 10, 2019

Have you ever had an experience where you kept eating and eating and eating then later thought, OMG, I’m soooooooooooo freaking full! Whyyyy did I do this?   I’m guessing if you’ve got a pulse, this is something you’ve experienced..   The thing is, it’s not all that bad (even though I know you think it is). Sometimes we do this and it’s because it’s for a good time - a great experience. We’re in a place we’ve never visited like Italy or California - and food and drink is abundant. We’re amongst friends and family - and it’s a…
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