Melissa Coloton

How to feel in control even if you’re anxious (Part 1 of 3)

February 21, 2020

Nature will not tolerate idleness or vacuums of any sort. All space must be and is filled with something. When the individual does not use the brain for the expression of positive, creative thoughts, nature fills the vacuum by forcing the brain to act upon negative thoughts. ~Napolean Hill Being in control is like a warm bath for our brain. It helps us feel like we can predict things, which makes us feel safe, which is what the brain is always striving for. Feeling in control alleviates anxiety (when we worry about the future). But what is in control anyway? My…

How You Identify Yourself Can Make or Break Your New Year’s Resolutions

January 23, 2020

Throughout my career, I’ve sold about half a billion dollars of services. I attribute my success to lots of things, but the BIG thing that helped me sell is my ability to mirror other people. Which, if you don’t know, mirroring is the behavior in which one person unconsciously imitates the gesture, speech pattern, or attitude of another. And I know a lot of people have this skill. In fact, to some degree, each of us tends to mold into whoever we’re around. I’m sure you’ve heard the quote by Jim Rohn, “you’re the average of the five people you spend the most…

The Ultimate Guide to Solving Any Problem

January 20, 2020

We all hear stories of people who have THAT moment where everything changes. For some people, it’s when they get married, have children, or land a new job. For others, it’s when they get a diagnosis, someone close to them dies, or they hit rock bottom. For me, it was none of the above. For me, everything changed when I passed out in a doctor’s office from an injection in my back. Now, I know this seems pretty harmless. In fact it was harmless. I wasn’t hurt. I didn’t fall and hit my head. Nothing bad happened. But for some reason, passing…

Why Improvement is the Best

January 14, 2020

When I was a kid I wasn’t the best at anything. I wasn’t the best athlete. I wasn’t the best student. I wasn’t the best acting kid - I was often told my brother was better. Hell, I don’t think I was even anyone’s best friend. In fact, in the yearbook, I got “easiest to get along with”. But what is best anyway? Like...does that mean NOBODY is better than you? Seems like a hard thing to accomplish doesn’t it? It seems a bit difficult to strive for being the best. Me? I’ll pass on the best. It’s not my…

Learn to trust yourself

November 30, 2019

I used to do this thing where I'd get an idea for creating something amazing and get SUPER excited. I'd think a LOT about what I was going to do to move my idea's ball forward. Then......nothing would happen - I would LITERALLY do nothing. After doing this over and over again, for several years - two things happened. One, I decided I must be an emotional rollercoaster, and I should not trust my feelings. I decided the ideas I would get were likely just fantasies, and they should be ignored. And because my ideas, in my…

Any Day Dying – What Death Has Taught Me

November 4, 2019

This past Friday, while enjoying a great chat over lunch, I received a text from a dear friend. The text read, "my mom's gone. My mom is f'n gone”. My heart sank, and I physically gasped. I read the text several more times to make sure I understood what she was saying. I didn't know what to say back. I sat there in what seemed like still time, staring at my phone. When it finally sank in...I realized my friend's mom was gone. She died and died quickly and unexpectedly. My mind had so many questions -…

Start Listening to You. Trust me, it will change your life.

October 20, 2019

How many times has someone said to you stop being emotional, don't make emotional decisions or, you're letting your emotions get the best of you? Even though it might not seem like it, people say this to help you. They're trying to make you feel better because they love you and want to see you stop suffering. The problem with this? We start thinking we shouldn’t be emotional and spend time trying to avoid our emotions or get rid of them. And instead, we should see our emotions as something good. Emotions are your internal compass and ignoring your emotions…

How to be Less Overwhelmed with Your Goals

September 22, 2019

“Dealing with the temporary frustration of not making progress is an integral part of the path towards excellence.” ~Christopher Sommer in Tools of the Titans - Tim Ferriss Two weeks ago, I was talking to a friend and he could hear frustration in my voice. He said, “you’re frustrated because you’re used to things being easy and what you’re trying to do isn’t easy”. Man, that made me mad. But it’s true, isn't it? When things are not easy or perfect, what do we do? We get frustrated. And sometimes we throw the towel in rather…

Having No Purpose Has Negative Impacts on Your Wellness

September 15, 2019

“All of us want to believe that there is some purpose and meaning to our life, that we are connected to something larger than ourselves. We want to feel some weight and significance to what we have done. Without that conviction, we experience an emptiness and depression that we will ascribe to other factors”. ~Robert Greene in The Laws of Human Nature Because you are human and aware of your mortality, you are searching for purpose - whether you realize it or not. And when you come up emptyhanded you’re frustrated (and confused as to why). Typically, your…

What’s Shame and Guilt Got to Do with It?

September 8, 2019

Have you ever felt bad after eating? Not the kind where your belly feels full, but the kind that shows up when you CAN. NOT. EVEN. believe how much you just ate,. A lot of times this happens when you go out with the girls. Or crush a bread basket at the dinner table. Or when you “break down” and eat everything in the fridge. If you answered, “nope”, I’ve never experienced that - stop reading and go celebrate because you’re in the minority. You’re luckily not plagued with the incessant chatter about what to eat and what not to…

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